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<div class="se-component se-text se-l-default" id="SE-7c3b284d-8b45-47d3-8cc2-93e716a17f37" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: inherit; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: normal; position: relative; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial;"><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-dad2ac56-a840-4d5c-95df-be205d197357" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-907c6930-d4bf-47ee-ad04-46cb2b256500" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">질문자님 안녕하세요 직장 생활에서 가장 힘들고 고민인 일인 바로 윗 선임과의 갈등이 겨우 취업하고 1개월만에 님에게 일어서나 많이 많이 힘드실 거 같아요. 새로운 회사에 적응하는 것도 쉬운 일이 아니었을텐데,</span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-a6ae5b1e-ca03-487e-a31e-25b674801859" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-96a87ba9-61f5-44df-9207-d183fa12c925" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">잘 인수인계 해주시다가 어느 날 갑자기 쌀쌀맞게 변해버린 모습에 많이 당황하셨겠어요.</span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-51704d1d-ef50-405c-911f-10f5f0937199" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-19ae3bc3-cd34-4e0b-a730-1d11106590d0" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">우리나라 조직 문화에서 이유가 뭔지 대놓고 물어보기는 불가능하고, 딱히 어쩔 방법이 없어 하시는 모습일 거 같아 안타깝습니다.</span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-9951839b-9813-4063-a88f-90c449d37f6a" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-899f6fcd-8aff-4c63-b5cd-b21ed7750a72" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">‘무엇보다 어떻게 맞받아칠까’ 그것이 알고 싶다고 하셨는데, 한국에서 직장 상사가 부하보다 무능하다고 또 억울하다고 상사에게 대드는 것을 용납하는 곳은 없어요.. 특히 그 상사가 사수, 직속상사, 팀장 등 위계질서 바로 위에 위치한 상사일 경우 직속상사를 이길 방법은 단 하나도 없는 것이 현실입니다. 그렇기 때문에, 왜 그런 관계로 발전되었는지 알아봐야 할 필요가 있다고 생각됩니다. 당장 직장을 그만 둘 것도 아니니, 힘들겠지만, 적당히 좋은 관계유지회복은 꼭 필요한 과정이라고 생각되어요.</span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-f45e77a3-471d-4463-8663-821536000118" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-4db3bd01-74b0-4826-9cf0-122147bffcee" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">관계라는 것은 일방적인 것이 아닙니다. 말씀하신 것처럼 지각했을 때 “야근하셨나봐요” 하고 던진 말이 걸린다고 하셨는데, 님은 친근한 표현으로 하셨던 말이지만, 마음에 오래도록 남는다고 하신 걸 보아 실마리 일 수도 있을 거 같아요. 아무래도 과장급으로 모범을 보여야 하는 입장에서 지각은 개인적으로 드러내고 싶지 않은 부분일 수 있잖아요? 사실 야근을 안 했는데, 지각한 사람 입장에서 얼굴이 화끈해질 수 있었을 거 같기도 하네요. 후배의 도전적 발칙한 발언으로 느꼈을 수도 있을 거 같구요.</span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-545e6845-36d9-4a49-9a93-7fa4d28f5943" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-50679a78-1f9c-418e-9428-a795af5d6cf7" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;"> </span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-bb93cd53-f098-4cf3-95ca-eecdd8e34f0b" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-dbcc4135-7278-4a98-be27-1e48b837aa33" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">이같이 한번 일어난 일을 돌이킬 수는 없지만, 차근차근 해결할 수 있는 방법을 모색하는 것은 중요한 기술입니다.</span></p><p class="se-text-paragraph se-text-paragraph-align- " id="SE-ba69637c-d13e-4069-b407-68a6195c2f34" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.8; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 0px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; word-spacing: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap; orphans: 2; widows: 2; font-stretch: inherit; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-numeric: inherit; font-variant-east-asian: inherit; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="se-fs-fs13 se-ff- " id="SE-1a2a15b4-6992-4e61-b6c0-df17f681347d" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: inherit; font-family: se-nanumgothic, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; font-stretch: inherit;">누군가 지나는 말로 일을 그 상사보다 일을 더 잘한다는 말을 들으셨다고 하셨는데, 그때 그 공을 그 상사에게 넘기는 것도 좋은 방법입니다. “제가 뭘 아나요. 그 과장님덕분이죠” 이렇게 다른 사람에 앞에서 그 상사를 치켜 세우는 일이 반복되다 보면 오히려 나의 든든한 후견인이 될 수도 있습니다. 그리고 나서 관계가 회복이 된 후에 그때 서운함과 존경하는 마음을 함께 보여서 이유를 알아보면 어떨까 싶네요</span></p></div><div class="se-component se-image se-l-default" id="SE-04e336bc-a037-4d8b-a91d-f57125035655" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px currentColor; border-image: none; text-align: left; color: rgb(138, 138, 138); text-transform: none; line-height: inherit; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: normal; 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